native americans &butches

we let marcia know that we want to go to Norma Jean’s tonight, and she lets us know that she needs our help to eat four crabs. (so it’s maría and didier that help out…) her other guest is an impressive woman called joan. she’s native american, with one belgian grandparent, and to somehow make the point she gives us waffels (the thin galettes) that she baked – the best i ever had.

but it’s her story that impressed me most. more than 10 years ago she set up the Native American AIDS Project in San Francisco. there’s a population of 70.000 (!!) Native Americans in the Bay Area, there’s a high incidence of HIV in the population (one of the highest), and the project is the only one specifically focused on Native Americans. this means that they try to address the specific conditions that hit the population really hard, like homelessness and sustance abuse, and also that they rely on traditional rituals and practices of medicine and healing in their work. in many cases they basically accompany people dying, and they do traditional burial rituals. lots of work with little people nor resources, and in the face of great insensitivity from the health sector (including an umbrella Native American health organization) about the problems Native Americans with HIV often face. i want to visit the project, and i wished i had already encountered joan while sahar was here – sahar, you will have to come back.

Norma Jean’s is different tonight. very little people showed up for the announced christmas night (and show). among the ones that did, a bunch of strictly butch/femme couples, from Salinas, we find out. when maría and i join them on the dancefloor, there’s a sweet dynamic: one of the butches invites maría to dance, and basically leaves me with her femme woman. how one gets positioned, without asking for it, to be explored further, with sarahjain in the house and sahar & giulia on the phone…

christmas eve

we went to david and clea this evening, for christmas eve. when clea invited me, she presented it as a dinner party for “lost souls” – i felt immediately addressed. i didn’t know at the time that maría and didier were already planning to go; maría later told me that holidays plans was the issue to be avoided with me for some weeks… it’s true, i had wanted to be with giulia in italy, with sara in beirut, and with my family – there had been little positive desire to stay in santa cruz. but here i was, a lost soul, in good company.

and so finally we get to meet clea’s daughter, alegra, who came down from alaska. a good part of the evening i find myself hanging on her lips listening to alaska stories. with a big beautiful atlas on my lap, to follow it all. 600.000 inhabitants (not so much more than the population of luxembourg) and the largest state in the union. a significant higher number of men, many of them strange solitary birds according to alegra. wilderness and wide-open space, minimal state regulation, rugged individualism – this is still frontier land. the utopian dream of being far from society, being self-sufficient.

and through her alaska stories, interestingly enough, we somehow get on the subject of suburbia. i get to ask her some of the “why and how” questions about suburbia that have been on my mind since a year now, and she tells the story of the birth of suburbia through the lens of hygiene. the threads of my little america book are slowly coming together: space / wilderness / suburbia / (social)hygiene. with the story that i really want to tell, somehow, being about freedom, independence, and individualism.

after dinner we go outside, in the hills of corralitos, singing christmas carols.

spots of light in the surrounding darkness of the forest: houses are lit not only with indoor lights, but also with outdoor christmas decorations of various kinds, the one more extravagant than the other. a hugh lit cross in front of one house, the scary imaginary of burning crosses.

this is my first christmas eve away from my family.

norma jean’s

Marcia joined us to the movies and afterwards she insists on going to Norma Jean’s in Castroville – she had been wanting to go ever since she got here, in January. with the year was close to ending, it was about time. Norma Jean’s is thé gay latino bar in the region. which is not the only thing that gives the bar its aura of local legend; the place is named after Marilyn Monroe who was the artichoke queen of the town, back in 1948. Castroville is artichoke land.

after marcia got her surfboard out the pick-up truck and stationed it at our house, i jump in and we drive down south to Monterey County. it’s my first time to meet her; maría had met marcia at a thanksgiving dinner in her house. marcia is a new professor in Community Studies at UCSC, and we talk about the experience of living in Santa Cruz. she also hated it at first. she lives in the “Beach flats” (“there’s no other place i could live in Santa Cruz”), the tiny latino neighborhood of town next to the Boardwalk which is considered, according to racist common-sense, to be an unsafe part of town. she continued to consider to move back to San Francisco for the longest time, till she found pacification in being in Santa Cruz in this moment of her life: the ocean. our conversation elaborates on the privileged and white character of this place, and i find out that the guilt side of white privilege, which maggie had observed in dealing with high school kids in Philly, is also present here. the self-righteousness strikes me deeply, but i haven’t come across much guilt. it would almost seem a welcome break from the self-righteousness. wait till you have them in class, marcia said, then the guilt comes out. it’s almost worse than the self-righteousness. cause somehow they look for her to fix it. drawing the boundaries in order not to take care of their guilt.

after passing the surreal landscape of the PG&E (Pacific Gas and Electricity) plant at Moss Landing, the lowest point of Monterey Bay, we approach Castroville. once we leave Highway One i get a sense of how small this place is. we find ourselves in a sea of darkness – the fields, no doubt. then we hit the main street, with an arch that announces: “Castroville. The Artichoke Center of the World.”

Norma Jean’s is on the left side of the street. on the other side, the straight bar. people hanging out in front of both bars, mainly a bunch of guys, cowboys, on the straight side, who have their eyes fixed on Norma Jean’s, in a way that suggests that the interesting stuff happens on at the other side of the street. actually, Norma Jean’s might be the only thing happening in this tiny town. one inevitably enters the center of attention marked by their gaze to enter, and i feel myself straightening my shoulders when i do.

once we’re inside we’re overwhelmed by the crowd, the music, the dancing, the atmosphere. (a latino crowd indeed, i must have been the only white person.) and in between, Marilyn Monroe images all over the place. once on the dancefloor, the variety strikes me: from what looks like old land laborers with cowboy hats dancing to the banda music, to incredibly dressed up women; from cool butches in lumberjack shirts to fashionable kids eagerly waiting for (latin) hip hip to do their thing. men and women and everyone in between – and then there’s line dancing! and a drag queen show later in the night, in a part of the bar that kind of invokes a saloon. (marcia gives me some dollars to offer it to the performer on stage, but as i shy away she does it, with a quite impressive performance herself.) all of this is worlds apart from the kind of sexual identity politics that i associate with white middle-class and urban crowds, like in San Francisco. and Norma Jean’s definately is a far more attractive and interesting space. i discovered my favorite bar in the region tonight.

loving&fighting

a sweet house christmas dinner tonight. it was my cooking night but didier is the real chef: we do a whole lamb leg and lots of baked potatoes. and my secret santa, who knows me well, gave me a delightful t-shirt with words that seem appropriate for the new year to come, for all of us –
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here

around noon i up look at the bright blue sky. somewhere up there is the airplane with a seat reserved for me – i guess i’m considered a “no-show” now. decided not to fly back home. god knows that i would have wanted to be in europe, or in beirut, but not here.

but i feel immobile now, it has been too much. the feeling that “here” starts to slip away – too much of being in between places, jet lagged, not very grounded. i am so used to juggle different places, to travel in between them, to have different relationships with and engagements in them. not sure if i would know how to live well in only one place.

but this time, this place, i’ve hit some kind of limit. it’s the fact of being in a place i don’t really like and therefore being unable to turn it into a good pied-a-terre which makes it so much easier to be mobile. it’s the sheer distance – i should stop pretending california-europe is another version of brussels-utrecht, brussels-luxemburg, brussels-london or brussels-istanbul. it’s the body – that material map of the things one does – getting older. it’s… whatever it is, it’s hitting a limit. a kind of exhaustian which unsettles “here”, not as a particular place, but a disposition of body and mind.

when i look at that blue sky my mouth tightens – god knows how much i would have wanted to be on a plane going east. but i know i need to stay here.

shut up and sing

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since i got back from Nashville, i’ve been playing the latest Dixie Chicks CD all of the time. in the kitchen (which is where i play my music, leaving the door to my room open). probably driving my housemates nuts. it was time to go to the movie tonight.

maggie had told me the story: the singer Natalie, from Texas, makes a comment about being ashamed that George Bush is from Texas, at a concert in London. weeks later the comments gets picked up in the US, and the ball of a campaign against the Dixie Chicks gets rolling, including a boycott of their music on virtually all of the country music radio stations in the midwest and south.

the movie documents the escalation. the comment at the time when the US is invading Iraq and thousands and thousands of people are on the streets of London. (you’d have to say something when you’re a (country) band from Texas playing those days, no… i remember the beautiful steamy intimate Amparanoia concert in El Meteco at precisely the same time, with Amparanoia saying “nosotros somos de Madrid pero… SOMOS CONTRA LA GUERRA!!! as she was screaming and jumping she lost her balance and fell off the improvised small stage, and in whose arms did she fall… yep, i just had to mention that sweet memory.) the concerted effort to boycott them, through right-wing republican websites calling for people to contact their local radio stations and threaten to withdraw support if they continue to play the Chicks. radio and record stations with big garbage cans outside where people can come to throw their Dixie Chicks’ CDs. people protesting with banners (and American flags) at their concerts. brief pieces of interviews with these people throughout the documentary: against “freedom of speech” which is obviously used in the Dixie Chicks’ defense, one person says something along the lines of: “freedom of speech doesn’t include giving your country a bad name when you’re abroad”.

what happened with the Dixie Chicks is set up in a dramatic way in the documentary. when i report about the movie to my housemates, some are quite shocked (and also quick to make it into something about “those people” in the midwest and south, the bushpeople) and mihui adds that there is something about this government that polarizes people. she tells me once more the painful story about a old school friend who was staying over. they happened to get into a discussion about the president, or mihui happened to make a critical remark about the president, and soon enough the discussion got out of hand. she got emotional, hysterical, mihui says, and ended with a comment about if she doesn’t like what’s going on in the US, that she’d better get on a plane and go back to where she came from (and she didn’t meant LA, where mihui is born). the friend took her bags and checked in a hotel, she didn’t want to sleep at mihui’s place anymore, and they haven’t talked since. her mihui’s point: all through her studies and law school she met many people with political convinctions that differ from her own, but she didn’t have the impression that discussions got so polarized as they do since Bush.

the movie goes through some effort to portray the three women as ordinary white southren country girls: the images from the ranch, the stories of growing up with country music, also the emphasis on (two of) them as mothers. in a sense they are portrayed as more “real”, more representative of the south, than Bush and his companions. which is precisely why the respons is so strong and violent, i guess. one of them says as much in the movie: it’s because we’re the image of the All American Girl. and precisely in that light it’s interesting to see the process they go through of taking a public political position. kind of trown in to it – Natalie is portrayed as a big mouth – but in the fact of nasty reactions they decide to stick together and stand up for peace and for a different kind of patriotism (american flags on the other side). and in the process – narrated in many songs on their latest CD – they have in fact become a different kind of band, more well-known than they would have been and with a whole new spectrum of fans. like me.

I’m not ready to make nice
I’m not ready to back down
I’m still mad as hell and
I don’t have time to go round and round and round
[…] It turned my whole world around
And I kind of like it…

x-mas tree

new creatures came to inhabit our house while i was away. among them, a christmas tree. maybe it’s not fair to impose christmas on a tree, and then it’s not a pine tree – it’s a cypress. a living tree, which will be planted in our back yard at some point. but meanwhile we thought we might decorate it. the whole house, which these days is not only the 5 of us but also didier, george and maryann, and sarahjain and her kids dropping by. decoration american style – stringing popcorn with some cranberries. except for mihui, who loses her patience with popcorn and uses all cranberries. (and the real problem with making popcorn garlands is of course that one keeps on eating popcorn.)

it’s a bit embarrasing, but we end up jumping around the tree and singing christmas carols. (later i talk and sing to giulia on the phone and we note a difference in carols: back home they all seem to revolve around maria and joseph and the small child, the crib and the barn and the three kings, while here there are so many about rednosed raindeer, sleighs, jolly seasons and white christmas.) actually this doesn’t sound embarrasing at all, but wait till i manage to upload maría’s videoimages of the event…

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the border

more reports, a video this time, from la otra campana in Tijuana, and the crossborder (“we didn’t cross the border, the border crossed us”) meeting of EZNL with latino groups in the USA. exiting news: a delegation of mujeres de la otra is organizing to meet different groups in California, they want to come to Watsonville to meet the Brown Berets.