secret life of bees

secret_life_of_bees_2.jpg i sit all cuddled up at the table in sahar’s kitchen. witnessing a very rare event – sahar sound asleep throughout the entire morning, into noon, after that pleasant party at murat’s place. time feels still this morning, and silent. i’m reading the last chapters of The Secret Life of Bees, the book that found its way into our house when i arrived back in this country in autumn, and then disappeared on morning, i had to chase it. its story touches me a lot, i’m enchanted by it but also disturbed. tears fall on the kitchen table, a meager reflection of the rain that is pouring down on New York.

Honeybees depend not only on phyiscal contact with the colony, but also require its social companionship and support. Isolate a honeybee from her sisters and she will soon die. (The Queen Must Die: And Other affairs of Bees and Men)

The whole frabric of honey bee society depends on communication – on an innate ability to send and receive messages, to encode and decode information. (The Honey Bee)

more friends

a long intense and exciting conversation with kristy today. funny how that works after months of emails; if i think about it, the last time i saw her was probably in february. and there never really was an opportunity to connect much, there merely was a recognition or promise of something possible. i suddenly remember the scene at the Katrina conference way back in January; i had just arrived and was still under some kind of shock or terror of this place. maría and i had found a little corner in the dinning hall during lunch break, and we were partly listening (and partly getting annoyed) to a picture slide show about New Orleans and Katrina. we spotted these girls talking together, and at that moment they seemed like the only other people in the room i could envision some kind of connection with. let’s go to talk to them, i said, with an urgency that smelled of survival. one of them was part of the Chavez coop and invited to me interview at their house, and kristy and sam were part of the Student Workers Coalition to Justice, and that is how we joined the group for a while. but kristy somehow disappeared from santa cruz soon after that. when her first email from beirut arrived, we learn that she had decided to live a year with her lebanese family. then there’s war, and email becomes something else. the need to write, have life-lines. the decision to leave beirut, accompanied by an unmendable need to go return. back in the U.S. she returns to New Orleans. from one kind of war zone to another; seeking an understanding of how they are connected in so many ways. a intensity of a war zone quotidian that is difficult to live with, but that also installs itself under one’s skin and seeps a vital restlessness into one’s veins. she had just come home to her parents, down in L.A., when she seriously sprawled her ankle and is forced to stay on the couch for three weeks. these moments when your body forces you to stop running around. until she can walk again and… leaves for beirut. eager to catch up with each other in San Francisco before she goes.

love team

clea and david bring maría home
flowers, cake and chilled champagne
excitement, stories and love.

(the affirmation of this summer
that i want to stay in santa cruz this year,
to live with maría. and she got us
a love team t-shirt from madrid)

(and jetlag, lots of it)

dochamps

a small wooden house in the Ardennes
gourmet good food and even better company
a cute baby boy named aaron
(and of course there’s luce irigaray, la luce)
a village full of Hassidic jews dancing and singing for shabbat
(and worried looks from ingrid and roland
when giulia and i sing and dance along)
aaron and ingrid

reading

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family

it’s my cooking night and i’m in the middle of making heaps of baked potatoes when maría comes in the kitchen and announces that there is a beautiful family in front of the house. oh… lotte and wim and yoran and arwen have arrived. what a pleasure…

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67400006.JPG sahar’s second day of california life as we go to the beach (ay, you might started thinking that work simply is not part of life here…) and sahar is yet another one who manages to take a quick swim in this chilling cold ocean. and then there’s the 6 year old boy with the inquisitive look who stops near the small camp we made (with a big parasol and a purple blanket) and asks: “why do you have all that hair there?” he’s pointing to my armpits. because it grows there.

and the urge to talk about how doing social relations and friendships and community is so different in this country. we don’t have adequate words yet to pin-point the difference down, but it’s a difference we can’t help not liking…
i’m reminded of berna who would regularly talk (complain 🙂 ) about this, adding a skeptical question “how come it is different with maría and you, i thought europeans were much closer to americans in that respect?” i’m reminded of wim’s warning before i left to the U.S. “it’s going to be so much harder and more different for you than in istanbul or kazan.” words that proved prophetic…